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“5 BENEFITS OF KEEPING YOURSELF BUSY IRL”

Get off social media for a while. I know, it’s easier said than done. It’s already been a part of our lives that some of us have gotten hooked to it, especially if you’re into technology and social interaction. It’s even harder if your job involves using social media platforms...like, a lot. Since that’s also me, I’m afraid I might not be the right person to give you this advice, hehe. However, I can share you what it’s like to keep yourself busy (or busier) IRL (in real life). Here are the f...

26 February 2020, 04:36 AM
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“ME ON THE STREETS: Lessons On Violence”

Last November 2019, I remember writing and posting about child abuse done by father in three different occasions (and of course, different families too). If you ask me how to get over that, then I am afraid I can never give you the right answer to. Recently, I witnessed another one – but this time done by the mother. As usual, I am just a single, childless woman. I am also blessed with enough fortunes to support myself and another person, at least. So, who am I to judge others who are differe...

28 January 2020, 10:15 AM
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"IT ALL COMES DOWN TO ONE..."

While you’re still young (and also strong), try everything. Like a child in a candy store, you tend to want it all. The colours, shapes, sizes, and tastes are all there and interesting to your eyes. Before you know it, something bad suddenly happens after you try plenty. It’s either your teeth or stomach (or worse, BOTH!) that starts to hurt. You stop taking / having / eating, because you begin to feel really, really sick. In some cases, this condition just makes you want to vomit. Eww. Yuck....

29 December 2019, 10:24 AM
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"CHIAROSCURO"

These days, I no longer believe when a person says they’re nice. Somehow, it sounds as bad as an angry incel telling a beautiful woman off for rejecting his advances, claiming that he’s a nice guy who deserves a much better treatment than that. It’s also as bad as a bitter, insecure girl bitching about a guy she likes who chooses somebody else, believing that she’s actually much better than the other girl. I know. I’m being damn straightforward about this. I just can’t stand superficial peopl...

24 December 2019, 01:23 PM
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"CHEAT THE SYSTEM"

There’s always a way to cheat the system. When I was a kid, I tried to be good. I tried to follow all the rules. They said that you reap what you sow. Then I got disappointed. I’d studied hard, in hopes for good grades. Unfortunately, my cheating classmates had always got better ones. They were always top of the class. I felt so stupid. My mother encouraged me to stay true to myself. It’s better to be honest than a cheater. At least that was according to her. But I despise the educational sys...

23 December 2019, 08:57 AM
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"5 REASONS YOU'RE HAPPY BUT ALSO SELF-CENTRED"

Happy...but self-centred? Some people are like that. They’re so happy with thei life choices and outcomes. There’s nothing wrong with that, until they start assuming that they represent the whole world’s current situation. Worst of all, they tend to blind themselves towards the varieties of reality around them. These people aren’t always cold and selfish. In fact, they still care about other people’s well-being...in rather unpleasant ways. They well-meaning intentions become ill-intentions be...

15 December 2019, 03:18 PM
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"THE PRESENCE AND THE QUALITY TIME"

Adulthood is often a lonely road to many. Unlike childhood and teenage years, you get busier. You always have so many things to do, often with so little time. If you’re not careful, those things might isolate you from other people. They’ll exhaust you beyond words and comprehension. Before you know it, you might become like robots. Everything you do, everything about you, feels more like on autopilot. The good thing is, you’re being both effective and efficient with your time and energy. Howe...

03 December 2019, 01:08 AM
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"THE PRESENCE AND THE QUALITY TIME"

Adulthood is often a lonely road to many. Unlike childhood and teenage years, you get busier. You always have so many things to do, often with so little time. If you’re not careful, those things might isolate you from other people. They’ll exhaust you beyond words and comprehension. Before you know it, you might become like robots. Everything you do, everything about you, feels more like on autopilot. The good thing is, you’re being both effective and efficient with your time and energy. Howe...

03 December 2019, 01:08 AM
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"WHERE SOME STORIES ARE FROM"

The older you get, the busier you are. There are more responsibilities – and as a writer, you must work much harder than before, just to find some decent time to write. Allocate it wisely, just like what you do with your energy. At least that’s how I feel. If you wonder about my life these days, I can only sum it up into one word: BUSY. That’s right, people. I’m one busy lady. For starters, I live alone. In fact, I have been for some years. Most of Indonesian women my age are already married....

16 November 2019, 01:05 AM
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"THE FIRST LESSON ON VIOLENCE"

As a single and childless woman, I’m aware that it’s not convenient to openly talk about this. However, I can’t just pretend that I don’t see what I have. Lately, more news sound a lot more horrifying than probably your favourite horror / thriller movies. We’ve heard mothers killing their own offsprings, out of exhaustion, sheer depression and lack of emotional and mental support. Most of these women have been the subjects of their husbands (and husbands’ family members’) constant, systematic...

09 November 2019, 03:57 AM
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"5 REASONS I CHOOSE NOT TO ARGUE WITH STRANGERS ONLINE THAT MUCH ANYMORE"

Social media is full of people with different opinions. That’s nothing new. Good and bad, stupid or smart, rational or insane, they’re all there. Of course, just line in real life, clashes do happen. We can never really avoid that. Social media simply offers the illusion of being able to speak your mind up freely, in hopes that others will agree with you. I’m not going to lie to you; I used to be one of those too. I used to argue like hell that people hated my guts. Some still do, some just d...

02 November 2019, 02:03 PM
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"HIS ALMOST TWIN"

Sometimes God works in peculiar ways. There are times when God simply plays the Universe to direct you where to go. Other times, that happens just to clarify what has been going on in your mind lately. A couple of days before that Saturday, a friend asked you to go to a karaoke night party with her. She said she’d been stressed out lately, so she needed to blow off some steam. You realised you’d been feeling the same way too, so you agreed to go. Hours before the karaoke night, you’d read you...

29 October 2019, 01:50 AM
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"ABOUT ALTERNATIVES AND BACKUP PLANS"

Since I was a little girl, I’d already made up my mind: I want to be a writer. I grew up reading a lot of books and writing tons of journals and fictional stories. Enid Blyton, Stephen King, and Agatha Christie have been my earliest inspirations. I remember not really wanting another job, not even a 9-to-5 office kind. I wanted my own space where I could just write all that I liked and whenever I felt like it. I didn’t want to listen to alternatives offered by other people. I wanted and was w...

23 October 2019, 11:29 PM
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"HAVING IT ALL?"

“His/her life seems picture-perfect. Good looks, great fortunes, social life, romance – they all seem to fall into place. Many wish to have his/her life...” You’ve already read/heard/watched stories with similar plots like this. The protagonist sounds flawless. Everybody wants to be (like) them. They cause such envy. Is it really true? Is there anyone in the world who really has it all – or is it just our insecurity at its best...or worst? The examples are everywhere. For starters, in some co...

12 October 2019, 08:35 PM
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"ANGRY DAYS AHEAD?"

You wish they’d never return. You thought you’d banished them all for good. All you’ve always wanted is a peaceful life. Yet angry days keep returning. These days, it’s hard to escape them. You can feel it in the air, suffocating you, although not as bad as the smoke from the current forest fires. You know where to begin. The world starts feeling like closing in on you again. It’s the same old, familiar feeling – a socially-constructed claustrophobia – out on the open air. So, the cheaters in...

03 October 2019, 07:47 AM
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"ARE YOU TRYING TO SILENCE US?"

This is my brutally honest question. In fact, this has been my question all along. I believe I’m not the only one. There have been many wondering the same. I don’t just accept and obey blindly, like some people may expect of me. Some are okay with that; others can’t stand me that way. Probably just like you, they want me to obey without question. I just can’t have it. I won’t. Are you them? Are you the kind who only expect blind followers instead of honest friends? Are you so insecure that a ...

26 September 2019, 07:15 AM
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"SIR HABIBIE"

When I was a kid, I learned about you from the social studies and history books in school. You were the Indonesian scientist who could also fluently speak foreign languages, like English and German. Then I found out that you designed aeroplanes and contributed more to science in Indonesia. I realised then that I’d wanted to be like you too. For starters, you are smart, resourceful, and able to speak foreign languages fluently. You also got to travel to and live in foreign countries, and creat...

22 September 2019, 01:24 AM
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“THE RED RIBBON: The True Story of An Afghani Survivor”

Sometime last year (2018), I had the privilege to recite Abdul Samad Haidari’s poem called “The Childhood Street” at Salihara, South Jakarta. I didn’t know that the poem would be part of this book later on. Reading “The Red Ribbon” poetry anthology is an eye-opening experience. You have to read this with an open heart and mind – and a strong gut. Allow yourself to be transported back in time and place, where the world around you in in total chaos. That’s when a faint hope and a little love ar...

12 September 2019, 08:43 AM
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“THE RED RIBBON: The True Story of An Afghani Survivor”

Sometime last year (2018), I had the privilege to recite Abdul Samad Haidari’s poem called “The Childhood Street” at Salihara, South Jakarta. I didn’t know that the poem would be part of this book later on. Reading “The Red Ribbon” poetry anthology is an eye-opening experience. You have to read this with an open heart and mind – and a strong gut. Allow yourself to be transported back in time and place, where the world around you in in total chaos. That’s when a faint hope and a little love ar...

12 September 2019, 08:43 AM
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“THE CLASSIC CASE OF BROKEN (AND REBUILT) BRIDGES”

I remember one of the places I used to work at in the past. No, I’m not going to name any names here. Consider this a mere case sample. There was this new guy at work. Let’s just call him Barry*. He’s younger than me, good-looking, and chatty. He was also very loud and friendly. It didn’t take long for him to have finally won friends...and admirers. (Duh, what else is new?) I liked him too...at first. We’d got along okay. I’d even thanked him personally when he covered for me at work. Then th...

03 September 2019, 05:59 AM
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